I’m Only Responsible for What I Say, Not for What You Understand
Embracing the Freedom to Let Go
Ever had that moment where you say something with all the right intentions, thinking you've been crystal clear, only to watch it get completely misinterpreted?
I’ve been there too. I’d spend hours wondering if I could have phrased things better, if maybe I somehow messed up in my delivery. I used to think every misunderstanding was my fault, a puzzle for me to solve. But over time, I’ve learned that sometimes, people hear what they’re ready to hear…and that’s beyond my control.
One conversation with a close friend sticks out in my mind. I’d shared something deeply personal, trusting that she’d understand. But the look on her face said otherwise. She felt judged, and no matter how much I tried to clarify, the gap just kept growing. Walking away from that, I felt heavy with frustration, until I realized : I’m responsible for what I say, but not for how it’s understood.
There’s a certain freedom in that. People listen through their own filters—their pasts, insecurities, and experiences. No matter how much thought we put into our words, they might still take on a life of their own once they’re out there.
It’s a simple truth, but it can be liberating. I say what I mean with care, but I’ve learned to let go of trying to manage someone else’s interpretation. It’s not about being careless with our words; it’s about accepting that our responsibility ends at our intention.
So, if you’ve ever felt the burden of explaining yourself over and over, remember this: speak from your heart and then let go. Trust that those who want to understand will make the effort, and allow yourself the peace of knowing you’ve done your part.
Thank you for reading!
